Meditation is the single most important thing you can do for yourself each day to stop compulsive mind chatter. Starting the practice of meditation is often a salvation. Your authentic self will appear in moments of quite awareness, and in non-resistance to the present moment, the dialogue in your head will stop and so will the compulsive emotional pain. During meditation one’s still self can become present and is empowered to de-identify with the drama the ego manufactures in order to feel alive and keep the negative chatter going. By practicing meditation you will experience stillness, peace and self-acceptance. We all have the power to stop attending to the seemingly involuntary thought processes, the continuous negative monologues, and the repetitive victim stories playing in our minds. Emotional, physical, or mental pain can be used as a gift to motivate you to stop the mental fighting in your mind.
My experience with emotional trauma and chronic pain has been a major influence on my values and self-care. I have been moved by intense struggling into accepting “what is.” When I practice acknowledging that my emotional pain is self-created and I am not a victim, my thoughts commence to change dramatically. Moment by moment I practice giving up my attachment to past, future and present thoughts to make living in the present my main focus. I have found peace through this surrender and a profound need to demonstrate kindness through my actions. The compulsive drive for more, better, new, in order to feed a false image and ineffectively heal emotional wounds is no longer fulfilling to me. This awareness came from an accumulation of personal losses, emotional pain and chronic physical pain. I use to have a voice in my head that continuously attacked and punished me for not doing enough. I decided I would no longer tolerate the self-created misery and unhappiness. The negative thoughts still lurk, but I practice observing and releasing them without judging.
I have found it is necessary to practice not taking people or situations personally and to stop building negative thoughts. The minute I make a situation “about me,” my fear is in charge and creating a story. I have learned that the challenge is to respect that who “I am” is not my minds activity, my appearance, my work, my achievements, or my bank account, etc. This “I am” realization is a sense of my own presence, it is not thought. As soon as I am conscious and stop the compulsive mind chatter I’m hearing, (i.e., “Hello old friend that has come here to make me feel like crap, you can go now”) I become present. I seize to become my reactions and negative emotions; I stop acting out my compulsive projections. I quit beating myself up and instead become conscious of my present worth. The challenge is to remain in the present moment and give up identifying with the drama for things that happened in the past or with fearful projections into the future. I take responsibility for my actions and self-respect. I recognize that I am continuously creating my minds reality and I give myself permission to be “perfectly imperfect.”
Thank you for reading this article. I’ve dedicated my personal and professional life to the importance of non-violence and self-love by teaching from my experience. In the past, I’ve sacrificed my emotional and spiritual well-being for perfectionism and looked to others for approval at the cost of trusting my intuition and developing my own self-worth. As a result, I’ve learned a lot about what it takes to put an end to the self-judgment and self-bondage. And, as I learn and grow, I teach self-compassion and give advice I use myself, in the hopes that it helps you to improve your own life.